Depression, fear, and anxiety are some of the most common, disheartening and limiting human experiences. Lack of hope, energy, motivation, and connectedness takes the joy out of life and makes it survival rather than living. Everyday stress easily becomes overwhelming and disabling until you take action to bring stress under control. Thinking of death and dying is common - they are attempts to run away and end the suffering. I can guide you through the steps you need to take to control your stresses and to recover your motivation to create a fulfilling and meaningful life.
Painful memories often linger around after overwhelming (traumatic) experiences, leaving you feeling irritable, angry, jumpy, and distrustful of others and the world. You may alternate between intense anxiety and vigilance at the one extreme and dark depression and hopeless "who cares" attitude at the other extreme. Old, buried memories can be brought back to life by new developments and you suddenly change for the worst and don't know why. I am there for you while you are working through your grief of losing one life and the awareness of building another one to (re)gain your sense of control over your wellbeing.
Leaving your loved ones and all that you have known behind is often conflicting, confusing and painful, even when you have done that at your own free will in the hope of a brighter future. You think you should be happy but when you close your eyes you feel sad and lonely. Or you may find yourself in a cultural "gap" between yourself and your foreign-born-and-raised parents, and you don't see eye-to-eye on your values and problem solving practices. I can lead you through your journey to a new awareness that integrates the old and safe with the new circumstances in meaningful ways. A new life is a new adventure, but not without challenges.
You have come to your 30s – alone. You may or may not miss a permanent partner, prospects for children or stability. Your parents are starting to look funny at you and feeling a bit inpatient with your slow motion. Which then makes you question yourself, “What’s wrong with me?” In a world that is built on marriage and family as "the norm" in development and human fulfillment, it's easy to feel ab-normal if you don't get there - or not "in time". Let's discuss these expectations and how they interfere with your own plans for yourself.
My primary language is Hungarian. If there are any Huns out there wishing to speak to a fellow country person and discuss cultural diversity in their native language, you know where to find me.
Even if you are not like "peas in a pod", I believe that families deserve a second chance to work on their relationships and come together once more like these "cookies in a basket". Adults may choose to separate their ways but children don't have a real choice to pick their parents. Abuse, domestic violence, estrangement happen and can be remedied with Awareness, Communication, and Changing Problem Behaviors. Let me support you on your way back to your family.
Movies are not only entertainment to kill time but also the myths of our times that can raise awareness and teach us how to make better decisions. We no longer sit around campfires in cold nights and listen to a wise person teaching us lessons of life as the heroes before us exemplified them. The directors of moving pictures are our story tellers and the actors are our heroes. They can make our internal conflicts visible to us so we can see ourselves in a different light. Life goes on and so does storytelling ...
I call on the wisdom of these motion-picture stories (also called cinematherapy) to help you see yourself from the outside in and gain more awareness of who you are and what paths you are taking.
A surgery can raise lots of questions and concerns not only about your own future but that of your loved ones as well. Your fear may come from past experiences, expectations of the current procedures, distrust of the system, or lack of sufficient information. I've been there, done that, lived to tell another story. Let me help you with my personal and professional experiences. It may not be surgery that is so scary but your lack of knowledge or the lingering images in your mind. Now you can prepare for reality and re-write your unfounded fears.
Life is stressful. Each of us needs to find a safety zone where we feel “good” and “sheltered”. Collecting things around you is your choice of keeping yourself safe. You derive a sense of “goodness of self” from imagining the goodness that each and every thing that you are collecting can potentially bring to someone. The tension lies in the opposing views: what feels safe to you feels unsafe to others. The cleanup will only feel like a “rape” of this “goodness of self” unless the letting go comes from inside of you by finding other viable options to express your love and affection. Let me support your effort to find alternative ways to be you.